Our coach is dating a girl on our team. The favoritism she receives is just unfreakin believable.
If I ever sat out on a drill cause I was to tired, I would get shit on, she however spends more time sitting in the corner then skating, and no one ever says a word. Because if we do, we get "punished"
Dating in derby between coaches and players, is a big no no as far as I am concerned! We are updating our bylaws and it has been requested by more then one player that a section be put in saying if a player is dating a coach, then she cannot be on the team he is coaching. (Anonymous)
I'm sure the above couple have no idea that they are getting the look of death from other skaters; they might even feel that they are successfully keeping favoritism out of the derby part of their relationship. Unfortunately, their league does not agree, and they are considering changing their bylaws to stop it from happening again. People, when someone puts a bylaw into the books because of how you have behaved, then something is TERRIBLY wrong.
Fortunately, I can leave you with a working derby couple, Heavy D and Kat Diablo. Heavy D is the coach of the Carolina Allstars and the Debutante Brawlers. Kat Diablo is a Debutante Brawler and a Bootlegger. Both of them joined the CRG last year and have been put in some interesting situations, such as skater and coach. I feel like they handle themselves extremely well in public, and when they are skating, they act like coach and skater, not husband and wife.
We came into derby at two different times she (Kat) was already skating when I decided to help out. The biggest obstacle for us and I assume most couples is to not take away from each others experiences. I have to be careful to separate derby from our relationship, especially at practice. Kat is getting better at it, if there is any corrective feedback. I still struggle when asked "how did I look at practice today" or "how did I do in the bout". Might as well ask "does this jersey make me look fat?"
In the beginning the stress of trying to get as much knowledge as fast as we could, lead to travel woes and putting our personal lives on hold. Now just focusing on CRG events and an occasional bout or two in Greensboro to support our local teams has calmed some of the stress down some. Kat and I support each other in this sport and respect each others role in derby. Of course there will always be new challenges that come up, for instance we will be announcers together for the first time on Saturday for the GSORD bout. I have a goal of not being a microphone fiend and hogging all the talking time. Wish me luck and cross your fingers we don't get all married couple in front of the crowd. Heavy D
|They've been nothing but professional in front of me!|