But what do you do when you feel overwhelmed with stress and frustration? What can you do to combat the feelings that your are spiraling out of control while you're trying your hardest to NOT melt down?
I'm glad you asked, citizen.
|They ain't judgin'.|
2. Let feelings that things are unfair or unjust go. Nothing makes me feels like I'm going crazy and out of control when I feel like I'm being unjustly singled out, by my captain, the refs, or the coaches. Am I not getting enough play time? Am I getting called on a million and a half penalties, and I'm sure I have only earned about 50% of them legitimately? (ahem) Sometimes we feel singled out in a game or at practice; most of the time, this is because we are so focused on ourselves, and we forget that there are a ton of things going on, and WE ARE NOT THE CENTER OF THE DERBY UNIVERSE!!! Wait, we aren't? Sometimes you get the short end of the stick, and sometimes you don't. Games are chaotic at best, and it's most likely that all of those people, refs, coaches and captains are focused on how to make you miserable. Take a step back from your butthurt and remind yourself that you are a small part of a bigger picture, the team picture.
3. Don't let communications break down. Sometimes, when I'm really frustrated I feel like I'm speaking Esperanto to my team, and even though that was supposed to be an international language, it never caught on. People forget how to communicate efficiently when they're under stress; we're all guilty of it, so try extra special hard to be clear and not bitchy with how you address your teammates. Also, learn the fine art of listening. Listening is way harder than talking.
4. Stop being a brat and having a tantrum. Most tantrums come from frustration+self centeredness = tantrum. Do I need to say more? If you are having a brat moment, keep it to yourself! Every time you come back to the bench and are a sourpuss, you infect the other members of your team with your bad juju. Don't infect your team! Concentrate on the positive things that are happening, even if they aren't happening to you. You may not be the most successful jammer on the track, but I guarantee if you watch your teammates, you're going to see them doing amazing things. Let them know!
5. Be grateful. Be grateful that you're involved in this amazing sport, that you're surrounded by people who have your back, and that you have something to focus on other than tv shows and your neighbor's antics. Be grateful that you can strap on skates and forget "real" life for a while; remember that derby is play. Why did we all love recess in elementary school? We got to play! Enjoy the playing and be grateful we have a chance to do it as adults.